Tam n pups winter trip 2022

[Northernraider]

OK so I now have all the facts and info .

It isn't good , it couldn't be worse really .

So it is cancer , lung cancer , one large mass in the right lung , 3 smaller bits in the left lung, a mass in the adrenal gland , one in the soas muscle , one in the base of her spine one to the side of the stomach and one in the left breast. Given the fact there were none at the start of the year it's highly aggressive and fast moving.
Prognosis is weeks not months ....

Chemo would do nothing but make mum unwell and would only add a few weeks if anything but quality of life would be vastly reduced .

Mum doesn't want any of that, palative care may come up with some ideas for better pain relief.


So thats it


A very nice Chinese doctor that we had a few laughs with before he broke that news at which point mum was the only brave one . Sister and I ended up in tears , I tried very hard not to but when he said weeks I couldn't help it .

I'm not ready ,

 

[Janine]

No words - just big {{hugs}}

 

[Just smiffy]

OK so I now have all the facts and info .

It isn't good , it couldn't be worse really .

So it is cancer , lung cancer , one large mass in the right lung , 3 smaller bits in the left lung, a mass in the adrenal gland , one in the soas muscle , one in the base of her spine one to the side of the stomach and one in the left breast. Given the fact there were none at the start of the year it's highly aggressive and fast moving.
Prognosis is weeks not months ....

Chemo would do nothing but make mum unwell and would only add a few weeks if anything but quality of life would be vastly reduced .

Mum doesn't want any of that, palative care may come up with some ideas for better pain relief.


So thats it


A very nice Chinese doctor that we had a few laughs with before he broke that news at which point mum was the only brave one . Sister and I ended up in tears , I tried very hard not to but when he said weeks I couldn't help it .

I'm not ready ,

Let it out Tam.. you have good friends on here that will think nothing less of you, if you need anything just let us know…

 

[Langtoftlad]

Sorry to hear your news Tam

 

[mikebeaches]

Sorry to hear this Tam.

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[pagey]

tough times

 

[jannyman]

So sad Tam. All I can say is you’re in our thoughts. Take care big man.

 

[Conal]

My wife‘s mum became ill whilst she had Alzheimer’s and only lasted a short time. Part of us wanted her to be here longer but we were glad she didn’t suffer too much. The pain of losing is almost too much too bear but after a while we realised it is a little selfish. Sometimes you just have to let go

 

[nomadic]

Hi Tam,

As a long term sufferer we are very sorry to hear your news.

Kind regards

Nev & Lynda

 

[Mousy]

So sorry about your mum Tam. Hugs to you all xx

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[Li150]

OK so I now have all the facts and info .

It isn't good , it couldn't be worse really .

So it is cancer , lung cancer , one large mass in the right lung , 3 smaller bits in the left lung, a mass in the adrenal gland , one in the soas muscle , one in the base of her spine one to the side of the stomach and one in the left breast. Given the fact there were none at the start of the year it's highly aggressive and fast moving.
Prognosis is weeks not months ....

Chemo would do nothing but make mum unwell and would only add a few weeks if anything but quality of life would be vastly reduced .

Mum doesn't want any of that, palative care may come up with some ideas for better pain relief.


So thats it


A very nice Chinese doctor that we had a few laughs with before he broke that news at which point mum was the only brave one . Sister and I ended up in tears , I tried very hard not to but when he said weeks I couldn't help it .

I'm not ready ,

So sorry Tam. Know what you’re going through.

 

[Zoobec]

I’m so sorry thinking of you all.

 

[Gina M]

So sorry Tam I know exactly what you are all going through.

 

[StephandJohn]

So sad for you and your family Tam. Crying is good for you although it can seem like an indulgence at times but it's better to let it out.
Love and hugs to you all.
Please let us know how things are when you want to - even the horrible, difficult and sad things.
Steph and John
xxx

 

[csd4t]

Know exactly how you're feeling, so sorry, thoughts are with you all

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[Bobandfay]

Thinking of you all Tam I been through it a few times never easy,make the most of the time you have with your mum it’s hard but try to stay strong for her take care.

 

[MandP]

A big hug even though I don’t know you Tam but certainly feel for you, so very hard.

 

[Edenside]

So sorry Tam, don’t hold it all in, when times get hard just reach out to the Motorhome Fun community, we will be there for you.

 

[Stonemags76]

You’re never ready to let your mum go. Spend as much time with her as you can, & vent here whenever you need to.

 

[Go_buddy_go_]

I don’t know you Tam but like so many on here feel like I do …..Sending so much love to you and yours

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[Al n Val]

Send your mum our love Tam and the same to you and your sister

All you can do is be brave and to look after her the best you can

It’s never a good time

 

[Mikey RV]

Tough times Tam, I know what you’re going through as my dad is slipping away But I am five hours drive away from him. Make the most of your time. Your mum will be proud of what you’re doing.

 

[scousebird]

So sorry to hear the news Tam, best wishes to you all.

 

[Onemanandhisdog]

It doesn't take much to get me going, I survived your update, but the comments since have me going.
So sorry for this bombshell.

 

[davanne]

So sorry to read this Tam …thinking of you and your family …stay strong

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[Rogerwyn]

So sorry for your news been there no words can help….

 

[CazPaul]

Sorry to hear this Tam, stay strong mate.

 

[scotzsue]

So sad to hear this Tam, sending hugs for you and your family.
Let the tears flow, let the pups comfort you and scream, shout, vent on here you are among friends.

 

[Carol]

Tam I'm so very sorry to hear this update so much to get your head around, your Mum sounds like one very brave lady.
Stay strong and remember we are all here wishing you strength.

 

[Howard B]

Sorry to hear that. Make the most of the time you have together.

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