Tam, Jade and Franky's European Adventure

Tam,
Very sorry to hear that. When my wife’s mum was in a similar position the hospital allowed visits outside normal hours and I spent a long time with her. Her short term memory was affected by her illness but, when she was lucid, her long term memory seemed to be getting better.
I encouraged her to talk about her childhood and growing up and learnt a lot about her and the times she grew up in. Luckily her condition did not include mood swings so she was a pleasure to be with.
We didn’t know how long we would have with her so valued the extra visiting time.
Conal
 
Tam

Sorry news is not good and understandably you are down.

We are here if you want to unburden, but we will understand if you stay silent at times.

I hope the Docs can think of an acceptable solution.

Meanwhile you have Jade for company, although I wonder if she senses something is wrong and reacts accordingly? Hopefully not, and she can cheer you up a little.

Geoff
 
So sorry to heat that Mum is not improving Tam & hard for the family to know the way forward. Fingers x'd that the situation improves.

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Hi Tam, sorry to hear your news & how your feeling in yourself. Keep fighting buddy & hope for the best for you & your mum. Take care Tam, you have a lot of "friends" on here. Best wishes to you all.
 
So very sorry to read that last posting Tam.My very best wishes to your Mum,You and all the family.
....one day your sun will shine again xxx
 
Sorry not the best news , life goes that way sometimes , you are probably aware of your own natural tendencies, as I read them from your posts, especially during winter . Maybe looking back thru this thread will give you a bit of a lift, as I am sure it had that effect on a lot of readers. Remember its the bad times that make you appreciate the better times all the more :)
@Northernraider
 
So sorry to hear your news Tam.
Parents getting older and frail is a time we all have to go through at some time. I guess that the majority on here, being a bit older, have gone through what you are going through at the moment.
As others have said, you have lots of friends on here who won't mind if you want to have a moan or rant.
Just don't bottle it up and get yourself too down.

Best wishes to you and your family.
Richard.
 
Tam,sorry things are not good for you at the moment. Unfortunately life throws these things at us from time to time. Things will get better at some point. Lots of folk on here wishing you well.
Podney.
 
Sorry to hear that. You've provided many of us with an informative and interesting thread so please do use us to unburden yourself if it helps at all. Love and best wishes to you and your Mum. X
 
We are so sorry for what both your Mum and you (and your sister) are going through. We wish we knew what to say. We just want you to know that we are thinking of you.
 
Tam sorry to hear that your Mum is not improving, very difficult when loved ones seem fine and suddenly go on a downward spiral. Perhaps the doctor will have some positive news for you and your sister. As others have said just pop into here and if you can’t sleep Morning Funsters thread will keep you occupied. X

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I can only echo what others have said....very sorry about mum, it’s always worrying when older people are ill.
Thinking of you.
 
I'm so sorry to read this but I did wonder,which is why I posted Tuesday.
As others have said we enjoyed the good times that you shared and we are here for the bad as well,if you need to rant at the injustice of life this is the place a lot of us have been there and those that haven't will.
Peace to you my friend
Martin
 
I'm very sorry to hear about your mum, and understand how you're feeling.
My thoughts and good wishes are with you.
 
Sorry to hear that mums not to good Tam. Why not tell her all about your travels. She would be proud of you and might cheer her up.

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Sorry about your mum mate , it all seems bad now but wait and see what the docs say .
Keep your chin up buddy .
 
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Will have a "wee dram" sending positive vibes to you & your Mum.
 
Well there's not much changes to report.

Mum continues to get worse. She hasnt eaten anything more than the occasional spoon of soup or 1 mouthful of anything solid for about 4 weeks now. She's completely bed bound and resists all efforts to get her up in a chair. If they do manage she does may be 30 mins and wants back to bed where she mostly just sleeps.
Her drips have stopped now but as she's required to still take oral antibiotics and refuses most times the infection will just get worse again.
Her muscles have wasted away after 8 weeks in bed and she can't stand never mind walk.
She associates eating with being sick despite there being nothing in her body to bring up.
We have tried to get her tube fed but as the psychiatrist says she's of sound mind they can't do that without her consent which she won't give.
The hospital staff have now done all they can.
Palative care are now talking about moving her to a rehab unit to try a different approach ...but at this time if she doesn't start to eat and to move she won't last another 4 weeks.
My sister and I have basically come to the point where we can't do anything as if you try to get her to eat she just ignores us or asks us to leave.
The psychiatrist says she's depressed but again she won't take the tablets and as they take weeks to kick in it may well be too late.

Personally I'm lost ....I've never felt so alone , depressed and have no idea what to do.

I don't want to be here , I've decided I'll stay till after new year and see what comes buy then I think I need to leave and do what I have to do.

There's one thing for certain she is not coming home. If she survives and starts to eat she will still need months of rehab to try and gain some mobility but will not be able to look after herself.
So that only leaves residential care as an option. Something we hoped would not have to happen but I can't see any other way.

My sister being In the healthcare profession does not think she's going to survive more than a month or so.

Her body is basically giving up at the minute.

I'm heading in to.see her shortly but that basically involves perhaps 10 minutes of chat before she falls asleep.

My trip now feels like a distant memory
 
Tam, that is bloody awfull, no words for you mate. Just sending best wishes to you all.:cry::cry::cry::cry:

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