Doc on tour, France, Spain, Morroco.

[Janine]

Have you read the book ‘Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus’ ?

 

[PaulW2]

Have you read the book ‘Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus’ ?

No, but I've heard 'Anus of Uranus' by Klaatu if that helps!

Differences are often overrated but they do exist. As we know from quite a bit of research. Steven Pinker's 'The Blank Slate' and also Steve Stewart-Williams' 'The Ape That Understood the Universe' are quite interesting in this regard.

 

[Northernraider]

Have you read the book ‘Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus’ ?

I wrote it

 

[Northernraider]

 

[pagey]

tidy t4 quite rare to see them in that condition

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[Dutch 68]

Look I'm well aware it might just be me ...after all I've a rubbish history with women , I seem to attract the wrong sort. But Jackie and I established on the first trip I met her that neither of us has any interest in the other bar friendship.

To be honest I think she prefers the dogs to me she always spoils and makes a fuss of them which is why when she does what she's done today it bugs me as the dogs are confused why she's ignored them all day.

We don't owe each other anything bar civility , I generally leave her to do her own thing , what I don't like is this way she like pushes away then pulls you back ...I don't know how to explain it really . But it's almost like a game of keep you guessing and confused as to what she's doing , pleasing herself then when she does turn up and is OK you'll be grateful for the company and a bit of normality.

I think the youngsters have words for this ...gaslighting or neggin or something

Like I said I don't feckin know I just find it confusing , frustrating and manipulative at times.

But I don't have a great deal of friends in my auld age and I try to keep the ones I do have .... but feck sake it's meant to be a positive thing isn't it.

Anyway like I said maybe it is me. Maybe I'm reading too much in to it I don't know.

She's helped me out in the past ,in many ways and she's been a good friend a lot of the time too. But I can't think of anyway to communicate this or bring it up without causing upset etc.

When she buggered off in morroco 2 years ago it was after we'd had a minor disagreement about how much she was feeding a dog ...she went nuts at me for saying something, didn't speak to me the rest of the day or next morning and when I came back from walking the dogs shed gone.

And I then travelled around with the other 2 couples I met.


I sometimes think maybe folk we meet think were a couple or summit . .. I find folk seem to chat more to women than they do me lol.

But then I've usually got 4 rowdy dogs .


I very rarely meet other folk nowadays....sure I share a hello here n there in the passing but that's about it.

Feck knows

Besides being an alcoholic by normal standards this behaviour might be why she is travelling alone and not with a partner, ignore and forget, she will either change her behaviour once more…….. or not ……., like you I would be most pissed off by her ignoring the dogs and hurting their feelings as they don’t understand this kind of selective attention

 

[Northernraider]

tidy t4 quite rare to see them in that condition

T25 or t3 , I like the coachbuilt body on it most of them look bulky but that ones very sleek.

Cracking condition

 

[Langtoftlad]

Your personal life might be in the doldrums presently - but undoubtedly you are giving those four hounds the best life any dog could have

 

[Grummyb]

Tam if Blu is still pulling with martingale like my muppet spaniel was someone I met in Keswick yesterday had their dog in a harness with lead hooked on a ring at the front not on the back so I spent 20 quid on 1 today and its transformed the idiot no pulling he gets to the point if the lead going tight and checks himself it brilliant well today it is if you have a harness try putting it on blu even if you have to use a cable tie or something to attach the lead at the front just to try it

 

[Northernraider]

Well about 5.45 Jackie sent me a text despite being not 20 feet away lol saying " come join us " think she was half cut by that point. I declined as felt uncomfortable suddenly going over to chat to the 2 other couples there after they'd been sat with Jackie all day while I was sat outside my van with the dogs.

As I said it's just weird to me .... even if she had called over at somepoint during the day and said come join us it would have made more sense than to send a text. She hasn't spoke to or petted the dogs all day

So I just said I'm OK I'm busy doing something else and left it at that , got dark around 6.30 and I came in to make dinner.

Been a strange and awkward day

I'll be heading back to algeciras tomorrow after I've walked the dogs .

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[CaptainPaul]

Looking forward to more philosophical debates over a beer very soon!

When it comes to philosophy with a Scotsman there's only one man for the job... the undisputable guru of Govan.. the forever enlightened Rab C!

 

[Sedge5]

If a man says something is fine it usually is
If a woman says its fine then 99% of the time it's anything but fine

That reminds me of when my husband asked me what I wanted for my birthday and I said ‘Oh, nothing’ . . . and he took me at my word

 

[CaptainPaul]

Here's some philosophy from the master....

 

[Helen Ariel]

That reminds me of when my husband asked me what I wanted for my birthday and I said ‘Oh, nothing’ . . . and he took me at my word

An old acquaintance of mine got his wife a hoover for Xmas one year… They’re divorced now.

Paul

 

[Northernraider]

That reminds me of when my husband asked me what I wanted for my birthday and I said ‘Oh, nothing’ . . . and he took me at my word

Case and point lol.

And I bet you were annoyed

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[Northernraider]

An old acquaintance of mine got his wife a hoover for Xmas one year… They’re divorced now.

Paul

And I bet he got socks n slippers

 

[Northernraider]

Here's some philosophy from the master....

 

[bellabee]

Tam, Re Jacky, is there any chance that she might think that you're the one who is ignoring her?
You say she's just invited you over to join them. Maybe she thought that you would have just walked over, earlier and that you've been wanting your privacy.
One set of events can look completely different through the eyes of different people and that can lead to all sorts of misunderstandings.

 

[Northernraider]

Tam, Re Jacky, is there any chance that she might think that you're the one who is ignoring her?
You say she's just invited you over to join them. Maybe she thought that you would have just walked over, earlier and that you've been wanting your privacy.
One set of events can look completely different through the eyes of different people and that can lead to all sorts of misunderstandings.

Normally she would come to see the dogs every morning, this morning we were all outside the camper and she's completely ignored them despite her sitting not 20 feet from them. I don't see how there could be a misunderstanding, it's not just me she's ignored but the dogs too despite ela blu and jade all barking to her etc.


The couple and Jackie started drinking around 2.30pm , and it wasn't till after 5pm before she sent that text saying come join us. She could have just shouted that over ...

Like I said it's just weird .

Or it is to me.

I'm not gonna just walk over and enter a conversation without being invited and well that was like 7 hours after that conversation started


But aye she will probably interpret that differently

 

[Raul]

Or maybe you over thinking it, me, just pop in say hello, have a gander to see how things develop and play it by ear. Sometimes ppl do want a break from dogs, specially if they are demanding and super active. She may want to see the dogs in her own terms, and let you be. Life is short, don't let it slip any opportunity.

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[1967bowesj]

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Second that, on your recommendation I got some for the oven hinges but turns out it’s great for wastegates too lol

 

[chaser]

Normally she would come to see the dogs every morning, this morning we were all outside the camper and she's completely ignored them despite her sitting not 20 feet from them. I don't see how there could be a misunderstanding, it's not just me she's ignored but the dogs too despite ela blu and jade all barking to her etc.


The couple and Jackie started drinking around 2.30pm , and it wasn't till after 5pm before she sent that text saying come join us. She could have just shouted that over ...

Like I said it's just weird .

Or it is to me.

I'm not gonna just walk over and enter a conversation without being invited and well that was like 7 hours after that conversation started


But aye she will probably interpret that differently

They have probably been thinking all day , why doesn't that old bugger come and join us.

 

[Northernraider]

They have probably been thinking all day , why doesn't that old bugger come and join us.

Because I was sat with my dogs and wasn't invited Charlie.

Anyway I'm fed up discussing it.

I've got my plans for tomorrow and that's what I'm doing. I'll let Jackie know in the morning that's what I'm doing before I leave.

 

[Sedge5]

Case and point lol.

And I bet you were annoyed

Let’s just say it didn’t happen the following year lol

 

[MichaelT]

An old acquaintance of mine got his wife a hoover for Xmas one year… They’re divorced now.

Paul

My wife kept saying she needed a new ironing board so I took that as a hint for her birthday present, she must of liked it as she's still got it

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[Northernraider]

Let’s just say it didn’t happen the following year lol

So the following year did you tell him what you wanted . Or did he have to just accept that "nothing" means something different to women.

 

[pagey]

tidy t4 quite rare to see them in that condition

Can't believe I typed t4 when it's a t3 I've had two of them

 

[Northernraider]

Can't believe I typed t4 when it's a t3 I've had two of them

Aye that's auld age for you lol.

I'm curious what conversion the coachbuilt is ,I've not seen one before , but that's the nicest one I've seen

 

[pagey]

Aye that's auld age for you lol.

I'm curious what conversion the coachbuilt is ,I've not seen one before , but that's the nicest one I've seen

Aye that's auld age for you lol.

I'm curious what conversion the coachbuilt is ,I've not seen one before , but that's the nicest one I've seen

For sure it's special

 

[Sedge5]

So the following year did you tell him what you wanted . Or did he have to just accept that "nothing" means something different to women.

The latter but I may have laid the ground a bit . . . in a roundabout way . . .

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