Tam, Jade and Franky's European Adventure

daveandsan said:
I would give it a try, our old dog Sam (see Avatar) had real aggression issues with other dogs, but when we introduced a young bitch into the house they soon got along. Holly used to hang off his neck and bite his ears, but if she got to rough he would just bark at her and she would stop.
Both dogs were rescues and sadly Sam has passed on, but he was as good as Gold with her.
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I'm lucky that jade does not have an aggressive bone in her body ..she doesn't even bark or growl unless I'm playing rough with her with a toy. When out and other dogs are barking etc she doesn't even let out a bark then. She cuddles everyone and loves all the other dogs and is desperate to see other dogs whenever we are out so I can't see her getting jealous at all to be honest.

I've seen a few videos of milo now too with other dogs and with the cat at silvias and he's not a bark dog either ...he's excitable and sociable so j think they will be a good match.

He's actually kept in silvias house and not out on the kennels as he was also found in a bin at only a few weeks old and she has hand reared him since then.

I think they will be a good wee match:)
 
Tam. It's your life, go with your heart. I'm sure Jade will love a friend.

Btw I saw Silvia the other day but didn't recognise her at first 'cos I've not seen her for about 15 years and she (like the rest of us) has changed and got older in that time. It got me thinking that I could (should have) done a few hours of volunteering. Now we've left Totana it's a bit too far to go back, but there is a place nearer here, so... I may contact them after Christmas.

I hope your mum has taken a change for the better with her interest in choosing the new puppy.

Best wishes.
 
So pleased. Two dogs are great. Meg had a new lease of life when Spice arrived.
As Jade is older and female she will probably be top dog, though they work that out for themselves.
Milo didn't have a great start in life but thanks to you and Sylvia won't look back now.
Many of us prefer dogs to people, I think it's because they have all our good points without the bad. Cats on the other hand have many of our bad points.
 
Onemanandhisdog said:
You'll need a bigger basket for the bike! :xThumb:
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I got a trailer:p
Bit also have basket on front so could put one on back again if need be

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Onemanandhisdog said:
Oh yeah, forgot about the trailer, ha ha, they will look like Royalty being chauffeured around in that!
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Yeah ..I wouldn't use it here but certainly Spain had lots of nice cycleways so hoping the rest of Europe is similar. But probably fit another basket anyway now I've got an off road bike
 
jumartoo said:
Tam. It's your life, go with your heart. I'm sure Jade will love a friend.

Btw I saw Silvia the other day but didn't recognise her at first 'cos I've not seen her for about 15 years and she (like the rest of us) has changed and got older in that time. It got me thinking that I could (should have) done a few hours of volunteering. Now we've left Totana it's a bit too far to go back, but there is a place nearer here, so... I may contact them after Christmas.

I hope your mum has taken a change for the better with her interest in choosing the new puppy.

Best wishes.
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Hi Judith yes mum's been having the odd day where she's quite alert and engaging but it is the odd day ...most days she's just sleeping.
Eating a little better on those days but consultant still keen to tube feed her but she's having none of it.

I've had a request for a greggs steakbake today lol so I'm just about to go take her one of those:p
 
Reallyretired said:
So pleased. Two dogs are great. Meg had a new lease of life when Spice arrived.
As Jade is older and female she will probably be top dog, though they work that out for themselves.
Milo didn't have a great start in life but thanks to you and Sylvia won't look back now.
Many of us prefer dogs to people, I think it's because they have all our good points without the bad. Cats on the other hand have many of our bad points.
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Yes I can't see jade letting someone else take charge as she's very bossy with me. I get told when to get up, when it's walk times. When it's dinner time and when it's bed time lol as she goes and sits at the relevant door and stares at me like the cravendale cows lol.

Milo doesn't know what he's in for
 
Yup - I can identify with all of that.
My cocker spaniel has now added 6 o'clock to the hard stare regimen - time for me to cook my dinner and share it with him! :-)

Northernraider said:
Yes I can't see jade letting someone else take charge as she's very bossy with me. I get told when to get up, when it's walk times. When it's dinner time and when it's bed time lol as she goes and sits at the relevant door and stares at me like the cravendale cows lol.

Milo doesn't know what he's in for
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Sent €10 but can’t seem to comment to the post to ask for numbers. Doesn’t matter, just happy to help in a small way. We’re currently in Portugal again, the number of stray dogs here is heartbreaking.

Edit - worked out how to comment by viewing the original post.
 
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So another wee update on mum..

Not a great day again today , anything she's put in her mouth today has been spat back out. At the minute the staff estimate her food intake to be around 150 -200 calories a day and approx 50- 60 ml of fluids

As anyone in the know will know this isn't enough to sustain life.

Despite the fact she's making a little more effort this week to try and eat it isn't enough and the surgeon and staff have advised tube feeding but she's refusing point blank to allow it.

As the psychs have deemed her of sound mind and competent they can't force her.

In her mind she thinks she's getting better and her attitude is she will get there slowly despite staff now actually informing her that it's not enough to sustain life.

If it continues like this then it's a matter of weeks before her organs start to shut down.

Both my sister and myself have asked mum now if she's just fed up and if she just wants to go but she dismisses that as a don't be silly.

But actions speak louder than words and we think despite what she tells us she's given up.
She's definately depressed and it's as a result of the new medication she's been given since last Friday that has been lifting her mood slightly and perhaps encouraging appetite a little...but despite asking for food she simply isn't eating it.

For example she asked me to take a steak bake in today which I did.
She wouldn't touch the pastry and I spoon fed 3 tiny amounts of the Steak in to her which got moved around the mouth the taste taken out but not swallowed and spat back out in to a tissue.

She had another ct scan and an mri scan done today which showed that the infection she originally went in with is responding to treatment but unfortunately as she hasnt been on her feet in nearly 5 weeks and is in bed her muscles are wasted to nothing.

If she was to survive this it's unlikely that she will ever walk again as it would require months of rehabilitation but if she doesn't eat and drink she won't see the end of January.

I've kind of accepted this now and I Guess I'm quite numb really, I don't want to lose my mum .....I'm not ready

But at the same time I want her to be pain free and not living a pointless exsistance.

I plan to head off from here around mid January....I can't do anything here and I feel I'm sort of in limbo.

If she is still fighting on when I leave then she will need residential care in which case they will take her assets and sell to pay for it.
If she doesn't make it before I leave then there's nothing here for me and I'll need to escape here anyway.

If anything happens once I've left then I'll have to cross that bridge when it comes and either turn around and come back or try and get someone to look after van and jade for me till I fly back.

She's now signed over power of attorney to my sister ...and having discussed it with sister today she's also saying I need to just go as nothing I can do and mum wouldn't want me not to live my life
Its a hard thing to decide and I really don't want it to make me sound like a heartless sod ......but I don't know what else to do

Its like groundhog day at the minute ....

Days like yesterday she doesn't look like someone who's dying

She's now lost 2 stone as her body is effectively eating itself.



I just don't have the spoons any more to deal with it.

Brother won't accept it .....sister is convinced she has weeks to go

Me I've no idea ....

She's fought an infection ...but she's slowly starving to death and there's nothing any one bar her can do about it.
 
Hugs for you Tam it must be so upsetting seeing your mum like that.:hugs:
 
Went through something very similar with my mum a year ago. I wish I had something positive to say, but all I can say is that I feel for you.
 
It’s a terrible situation. All I can add, is that the human body is an amazing incredible living thing and that you mustn’t give up on her getting better. I’m not saying to live your life any differently, just think that it is possible for your Mum to get better.
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It’s a tough time Tam but from your last post I think you’ve got the situation rationalised in your mind and while it can be so hard to get to that point, it’s good that you’re there. If she pulls through, it’s a bonus, but like you say there’s nothing you can do one way or the other now. Don’t beat yourself up about it. Make plans. You know you have everyone’s support and best wishes here.
 
Sometimes the best thing you can do is not think, not wonder, not imagine, not obsess. Just breathe and have faith that everything will work out for the best.

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We too went through something similar with my MIL a few years ago, it is heart breaking to watch and you feel utterly useless (and sometimes very angry) trying to cajole them to eat "just one more bite". I have no helpful suggestions I'm afraid, only to say keep remembering your mum for the person she was before she was ill :unsure:
 
Tam a sad post but I think you can only do what's best for you. Your plans are fairly fluid and you can change them if necessary.
 
Bloody hell Tam, that can't have been easy to write as it was bloody hard to read.

It sounds a very level headed plan in a s**t situation.
 
Really sorry for what your all going through Tam, have no answers or suggestions mate. Look after yourself though.
 
JESUS,
I really feel your pain.
We all know the enevatabilyity of life!
But it's the journey,the love ,memories we all make through life.

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Tam we are all here for you, don’t forget -talk to us, we may not be able to help physically but we will listen & sympathise.
 
Tam,
Have read many of your posts over last year anonymously but feel the need to reassure that you've done everything and more - am speaking from experience of losing all 4 parents including In Laws over a recent 5 year period although they all got into the 90's.
We weren't correct about how long any of them would last - I'm sure others will agree on that. One day seem as if its the end, the next you're wondering why they're in care or hospital at all!
Just carry on being strong - You've got real caring friends on this site.
Best wishes
 
Happy birthday JADE 1yr old today
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Happy Birthday Jade! What a little smasher she is Tam :D

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