IAN and HELGA,,ONWARDS and UPWARDS!!

[Hammie]

that is the point, you are guessing. If necessary a swift letter from a solicitor requesting probate will change your brother's attitude

Probably send him into a rage if he is up to no good. Correct me if I am wrong but doesn’t probate need to be applied for anyway?

 

[Hammie]

i have joint accounts with a family member that died the banks froze the accounts pending probate, even though I am getting their share in the will

Yes they did the same with mine and my husbands joint account as everything went through probate. The lawyer had to check with me that I had funds to live on?

 

[Hammie]

So Ian would be carrying him ,don’t sound fair to me ,that’s a lot of work on one persons shoulders to earn two wages .

My husband had a business partner like that for years!! Grr. What a banker.

 

[busby]

There are some fantastic outdoor kitchens, pizza ovens etc that are brick built, I was considering at one time. This kind of thing but with pizza oven instead of bbq.

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Blimey,,how do you carry that in your van? ?? BUSBY.

 

[chrisinplymouth]

Hi Ian...... you ok pal?

Chris

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[chaser]

Hi Ian...... you ok pal?

Chris

Been thinking the same for a couple of days but didn't like to say anything.

 

[Anthea M]

Sending hugs Ian

 

[scotzsue]

ianthebuilder
Another concerned about you Ian
How's it going.

 

[chaser]

Come on ianthebuilder , no need for a explanation of why you have gone off but a short reply to say you are ok would be good.

 

[TheBig1]

Ian has found himself a bad woman

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[Scotch mist]

He’s a big boy I’m sure he’s good , must also be difficult trying to relay life’s challenges onto a forum
Anyway he’s on holiday, even Ian’s is entitled to his summer break ?

 

[Ivory55]

He has found god and given up all the bad things like motorhomes. Haha

 

[Clarky]

We are all missing your input Ian.
Hope you’re OK.

Richard & Kate

 

[Keith777]

I pm’d him a couple of days ago
All’s Well - just a bit pissed with getting messed about by builders I’m sure he’ll be back soon
Keith.

 

[ianthebuilder]

Good morning,,,

Yes I’m fine thanks,, the truth is it’s all a bit negative in my world at the moment, and I’m struggling to formulate a plan!!

I’ve been let down by a couple of people, I’ve believed for a while, a few things people said, and they have not materialised,, such is life,,

The site I’m on is lovely, that’s a plus, but lovely doesn’t pay the bills,, I’m trying to formulate a plan, that may include a move,, even had the thought of selling Helga, buying a little caravan and then have some money to set something up,, I know not what? Lol

But all in all, I don’t know if Norfolk is for me anymore!!

I can’t seem to get a grip on any firm ideas, plans, I can’t make any decisions without overthinking em, and I suppose I’m at a bit of a crossroads as to where I’m going,,

If I go left, is it better than right?
If I go right, is it better than left?

Anyway, helgas mot is due in a month or so, so I’m going to plod on till then, and then I may be able to make a decision!! But then again, I’m not sure!! Lolol.

Hooe you’re enjoying your weekend,, I will keep you updated,, Chat later, xxx

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[The Dudess]

Good morning Ian. Glad to hear you're OK.
Deciding not to decide is in itself making a decision, so don't feel bad about maintaining the status quo for the time being.

 

[denisejoe]

Glad you're OK Ian. The Dudess is right - you have made a decision. You have decided to hang on to Helga until at least the MOT and then make another decision.

Is it time for a move back to Canterbury or even Spain?

 

[Mikey RV]

Your just at one of life’s hurdles, you can get over it and carry on. Good luck mate whatever you decide to do.

 

[Anthea M]

Glad to see you posting , hope you can get all the worries sorted ASAP .
Selling Helga?!! Oh no?!

 

[chaser]

Thanks ian glad to hear you are ok, was a bit worrying when you disappeared after your post about being down.
Just keep laying some bricks and you will get sorted

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[Stonemags76]

When we lose our parents, whether we were close or not, it always makes us reassess who we are. Properly grown up, no one “above” us in the family etc. I think what you are experiencing is perfectly natural, but my only advice is do nothing! Don’t make any big decisions for a while. Plod on. Give yourself a break. It will all come right in the end!

 

[reckless]

Agree with Stonemags76, Ian, you've lost your dear old mum - the only constant in your life? You're bound to feel down and unsettled.
You've got a butterfly brain, flitting from one thing to another. Take your time before you decide about Helga. She offers an alternative lifestyle if you can't stick the building any more.
But you've got to keep the coffers filled and it's hard to stick at something you're not enjoying.
Sending positive thoughts
Karen x

 

[Figaro]

Good to hear you're ok Ian.
Take time to assess where you go next.
Have you given up on the little plot in Portugal idea ?

 

[Janine]

The way I see it, Helga is the only constant thing in your life at the moment!

If you don’t know what to do, don’t do anything. Enjoy having a bit of a wallow - we all need it sometimes.

 

[tonyidle]

I’m vaping!! It’s amazed me how good it is!!

I did mention it once or twice when we met .

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[ianthebuilder]

Good evening,,

Had a day of washing, housework etc, enjoyable though,,

I have a days work tomorrow for a bloke, so that’s a start! Lol.

Hooe your weekend was enjoyable,, xx

 

[scotzsue]

I'm with Janine on this, if you dont know what to do do nothing.
Was surprised at how losing my mum affected me, we weren't close emotionally and lived quite a bit apart too. Hang onto your lady (Helga)
Glad to hear you sounding a bit more cheerful.
If you enjoyed the cleaning you cold always set up as that, we could do with a lot more motorhome detailers.
Friends son does naked butlering ?

 

[Granjan]

Hi Ian sorry to read you have been a bit down in the dumps, cut yourself a bit of slack, loosing your Mum was bound to affect you. How is the cake making coming along? We were well impressed, a man of many talents. Try to keep going with the work and bank a bit of money before the winter. Anyone need any bits of building work doing?

 

[TheBig1]

I know of a builder, sold up in Norfolk, bought a motorhome and left for sunnier climes and a different life. Sadly we hear he has gone back where it all started and is seriously depressed. There must be a reason for repeating the pain, but the open road calls again

 

[Rob and Val]

Sometimes the best thing you can do is not think, not wonder, not imagine, not obsess. Just breathe and have faith that everything will work out for the best.

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