How much time apart?

[Just smiffy]

Nearly 4 months in this little van, still on honeymoon…


Another dog will be another person in the relationship….

 

[Orion]

Everyone is different but we really do enjoy each other’s company and when away immersing ourselves in other cultures, places of interest, or simply being out in the countryside, we rarely have time to be apart. Together for 53 years and will be celebrating our 50th wedding anniversary in - wait for it - Benidorm (Villasol) for 4 nights in May after 5 weeks wild swimming and cycling. We’re very catholic in our camping habits, generally weighted towards off grid and aires, but if there’s something specific we want to see or do and a campsite is convenient, then that’s what we’ll use.

 

[Parrot Face]

For years my wife pestered me. telling me to go away with my single mate for a few weekends. I finally gave in and booked 3 days in Berlin with 3 mates. Now despite us being "comfortable" she's complaining about the cost of the trip.

 

[Carpmart]

For years my wife pestered me. telling me to go away with my single mate for a few weekends. I finally gave in and booked 3 days in Berlin with 3 mates. Now despite us being "comfortable" she's complaining about the cost of the trip.

You can please some of the people some of the time, but the wife, none of the time!

 

[Helen Ariel]

Just sat at the dining table having a Valentine's meal with more wine. Wife announces " There are lots of nice things I would like to do with that big bed" I looked at her bemused and she said I'm watching "Gardens World on TV"
True story.

Sounds like me. I'm a gardener!

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[cyberyacht]

Just prior to early retirement, I remarried. Upon returning from honeymoon we were both treated to a three day residential 'retirement course'. One of the questions that went round the group was "How will you cope with your partner at home all day?". My wife replied "I don't know. I've only been married to him for three weeks."

 

[Pocket Rocket]

We spend most of our time together when we’re away on 6-7 week European trips - although when we cycle “together” we’re usually apart as I cycle up
alpine mountain climbs much quicker, whilst he is a superb descender on a road bike. We used to go on “holidays” to race our bikes in the alps and dolomites etc, so would ride separately.

We get on brilliantly when we are away, and then happily live in our separate houses when we get back home, although still see each other several times a week.

It’s a bit different from most folks, but it works for us. As the saying goes “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it”!

 

[maison]

Except for business trips we were rarely apart when working.

Now retired we are seldom apart. Friends say we must be conjoined twins as they rarely see one without the other.

Just coming up to our 56th wedding anniversary so I am not even going to try to calculate the hours.

 

[Brains]

For years my wife pestered me. telling me to go away with my single mate for a few weekends. I finally gave in and booked 3 days in Berlin with 3 mates. Now despite us being "comfortable" she's complaining about the cost of the trip.

She has been watching 'Cabaret' so now knows exactly what four young men can get up to in Berlin !

 

[The Coops]

Never thought about it! We both like similar things and if the other one doesn't then no problem, do your own thing!

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[scotzsue]

John misses his golfing trips, not my doing his friends no longer feel up to going.
I miss them too, was my time to go off with a group of my friends, not funsters, they no longer are able to travel.
Not gone off on my own much since lock down, and only having one bed in the motorhome makes trips with friends less doable, unless i chuck someone outside in a pup tent

 

[TwistNShout]

We've been living together 10 years and married nearly 8, retired 3 years ago. We enjoy a lot of the same things, TBH I was a little worried how retirement would go - I have loads of hobbies, my wife doesn't really have any - but being together 24/7 is actually really easy. When we're away I sometimes go for a walk on my own, as I'm a hiker and she isn't, I think the longest time away has been six hours. The longest we're been apart since moving in together has been about 30 hours when I've been away for work. However a friend and I are planning to walk Hadrian's wall which will be about a week away, she is already worrying about it.

 

[Brize]

I had to smile when I read this thread.

In 36 years in the Services my wife waved me off to war on 4 occasions, and altogether (I think) there were 10 detachments overseas that were longer than 4 months each and I can recall 4 Christmas's abroad in pretty awful places. That is all in addition to the numerous 2-3 week exercises away.

So you cherish the time together and I'm grateful that the kids were well looked after and raised properly in my absence.

Next month is our 50th wedding anniversary.

 

[bellabee]

We're retired and spend a lot of time together at home, so we're used to each other's company.
When we're travelling we move around a lot, rarely staying in one place for more than 2 or 3 nights, but we also like to find some stops where we can stay for up to a week and where we (and our dog) can sit out and enjoy the sunshine.
Like you, we enjoy being active - walking and exploring, sight seeing, but minimal cycling because of the dog, so wherever we are we spend a good part of our day away from the van.
Graham always takes a stack of books with him, but I tend to feel that I might be missing something if I'm not out-and-about. This is where the dog really comes into his own. Often Graham will prefer to spend a couple of hours sitting outside reading, while the dog and I disappear off somewhere.
It works well for us but does necessitate using paid aires and campsites as well as free stops.

With regard to dogs - I think any time a good time to get a new dog .

 

[TwistNShout]

I had to smile when I read this thread.

In 36 years in the Services my wife waved me off to war on 4 occasions, and altogether (I think) there were 10 detachments overseas that were longer than 4 months each and I can recall 4 Christmas's abroad in pretty awful places. That is all in addition to the numerous 2-3 week exercises away.

So you cherish the time together and I'm grateful that the kids were well looked after and raised properly in my absence.

Next month is our 50th wedding anniversary.

That reminds me, I worked with an ex Navy submariner in Saudi. In those days it wasn't unknown for subs to be away 6 months at a time and he reckoned that he'd rarely had more than a couple of months home at a time in all his service. When he left the navy he was home for about 6 months and apparently their marriage was suffering, basically she was used to doing everything and they were clashing. So he got the Saudi job, 3 months in Kingdom followed by home for anything from 2 to 4 weeks then back for 3 months - he reckoned that it saved their marriage

I occasionally wonder what happened when he finished in Saudi and/or retired.

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[bladerunner]

What does a man say to his wife when he wants sex?
“I’ll be working late at the office tomorrow darling”.

What does a woman say to her husband when she wants sex?
“Are you playing golf Sunday darling?”

Jokes aside, I’ve been married to my best friend for nearly 38 years, together around 43.
We spent many weeks apart for a good few years with clashing on calls in different hospitals.

Now retired we spend most days together apart from my ski trips and motorbike trips.
I think it’s important to have some time apart so you have something to talk about.
But time together is just fine and we plan many adventures and holidays.

 

[Bailey58]

Married 56 years come April, retired for 22 years and we're rarely apart. A whole day when I used to visit Old Trafford until Fergie retired some 12 years ago, Mrs B used to visit her family in the Faroes for a couple of weeks up until 15 years ago but now it's a couple of hours in town when she visits the hairdresser. We also worked together for the last 30 years of our working lives! We must get on!